"...IF YOU FOLLOW YOUR BLISS, DOORS WILL OPEN FOR YOU THAT WOULDN'T HAVE OPENED FOR ANYONE ELSE." - Joseph Campbell

"SOMETIMES ON THE WAY TO YOUR DREAM, YOU GET LOST AND FIND A BETTER ONE." - Unknown (as seen on River's blog, "Drifting Through Life")

"IT IS POSSIBLE AT ANY AGE TO DISCOVER A LIFELONG DESIRE YOU NEVER KNEW YOU HAD." - Robert Brault


"IT'S NEVER TOO LATE TO BE WHO YOU MIGHT HAVE BEEN." - George Eliot

"WE DID NOT CHANGE AS WE GREW OLDER. WE JUST BECAME MORE CLEARLY OURSELVES." - Lynn Hall

"GO CONFIDENTLY IN THE DIRECTION OF YOUR DREAMS! LIVE THE LIFE YOU HAVE IMAGED." - Henry David Thoreau



Wednesday, January 20, 2016

* THE BEST YEARS OF OUR LIVES *

I love old movies, particularly black and white films from the 1940s and 1950s: Comedies, dramas, & love stories. One of my all-time favorites is The Best Years of Our Lives. The first time I saw it was on TV when I was probably 12 or 13 years old.

Although I've watched it dozens of times since then, and remember every scene in the almost-three-hour-movie, the one that struck me that particular day was twenty-something Peggy talking to her parents, Al & Milly, about love, and how they were "so old" they'd forgotten what it was like to be in love....

Peggy: It's none of your business how I'm gonna do it. You've forgotten what it's like to be in love.
Al: You hear that, Milly? I'm so old and decrepit I've forgotten how it feels to want somebody desperately.
Milly: Peggy didn't mean that, did you darling?
Peggy: Oh, no. I don't know what I do mean. It's just that, everything has always been so perfect for you. You loved each other and you got married in a big church, and you had a honeymoon in the south of France. And you never had any trouble of any kind. So how can you possibly understand how it is with Fred and me?
Milly: We never had any trouble. [To Al] How many times have I told you I hated you, and believed it in my heart. How many times have you said you were sick and tired of me, that we were all washed up? How many times have we had to fall in love all over again?

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At my young age at that time, I couldn't imagine how a married couple could feel like that and say such awful things, and still experience the magic of falling in love again and again, especially at their ages. (and of course, my parents' divorce didn't send this kind of message to me, either.)

My disbelief lasted for many years. Obviously during my entire, short-lived-too-young-to-get-married, first marriage. I realized at some point that I had never been in love with my first husband. I wanted someone to love me, take care of me, be a good husband and father, etc. I loved him in the beginning, but I certainly was not "in love."

Fast forward many years...The Ronald and I will celebrate our 33rd Anniversary next month. Thirty three years! I don't know how that's possible since I'm only 40 years old! Hee Hee...

I'm so proud and happy to say that it's been a very happy marriage, too. We have fun. We laugh together and make each other laugh. We like pretty much the same things. Sure, we've had disagreements and arguments, and times of real anger, and loud voicing of opinions at times. But being with him, I know and understand how it feels to be in love, and how exciting it is to fall in love all over again.

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This will be Ron and me in about 20 years!
 
 

13 comments:

  1. I've loved people, husbands even, but I haven't ever been "IN love". Maybe later....

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    1. Hey River and Delores...I definitely understand how you feel...I've been there, too.

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  2. Glad for you, Becky! It is a tough row, marriage these days...many younger people will not know the joy of growing old together.

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    1. Thanks, Bookie! And I agree with you on both...marriage can definitely be very hard...and too many people give up way too soon, and don't try to work things out. Of course, there are situations when divorce is the best thing that can happen, but usually it's just because of selfishness, etc...

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  3. Oh the memories. I have a fun husband too. We're lucky like that, Becky.

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    1. Hi Linda! Yes, our husbands are both a couple of fun guys, thank goodness! 'Cause we're a couple of fun gals!...and we've both known the unhappy years, too...

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  4. It really is a blessing. I am so thankful to be married to a wonderful man. It's a gift.

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    1. Hi Sandi! I'm very happy that you have a wonderful husband, too! It IS a gift!

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  5. Still going strong after 43 years. It takes work and commitment though!

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    1. Holy Smokes, Susan! What did you do....get married at 13 years old??!! FORTY THREE years of marriage??!! LOL...but how wonderful!

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  6. Marriage isn't easy, but making it work is worth the effort. Congrats a month early, Becky!

    Pat
    Critter Alley

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    1. Hi Pat! You are so right, and thanks for the early congrats!

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