tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3412682543148147625.post39672196167371465..comments2023-10-19T10:08:50.262-05:00Comments on Welcome to Becky's Life: Meandering Down the Long & Winding Road, Wondering What Lies Ahead: * Deadlines...Those Awful Deadlines *BECKYhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15184458949017900541noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3412682543148147625.post-91910213367680350302011-03-20T09:20:40.450-05:002011-03-20T09:20:40.450-05:00Hi Becky, I completely understand about not gettin...Hi Becky, I completely understand about not getting around to all the blogs. I'm teaching a book writing course now, and it's hard to carve out time for my own blog commitments. Sometimes, we just have to say "uncle"!Clara Gillow Clarkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10204130118900222511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3412682543148147625.post-43337682739512754372011-03-19T14:58:40.068-05:002011-03-19T14:58:40.068-05:00Hi Becky, I can relate. My "day job" is...Hi Becky, I can relate. My "day job" is all about deadlines, and I never miss them. I've also kept on top of my self-imposed blog schedule. But the books? The big, big oh-my-God-I'm-really-putting-it-out-there books? Reaching that absolute final deadline is like dropping your kid off at her/his very own first apartment and knowing that the kid's future will be greatly influenced by others. Also, that's the time when you give away that which has been "a pleasure, not a burden" (as your friend aptly put it). So, it's not an easy thing to do. Think about your next big project and how exciting it'll be to get going on that! It'll feel like you've still got a kid in the house, and that might help.Katie Gateshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01264642384901419402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3412682543148147625.post-57904649172485400432011-03-19T07:18:18.439-05:002011-03-19T07:18:18.439-05:00You can do it, Becky. Spring is probably just the ...You can do it, Becky. Spring is probably just the thing you need. :)<br /><br />MargoMargo Dillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03635922963449775278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3412682543148147625.post-69710411040320110012011-03-19T06:21:09.144-05:002011-03-19T06:21:09.144-05:00Self-imposed deadlines can be great for motivating...Self-imposed deadlines can be great for motivating yourself, but more often than not, depending on the situation, they tend to raise stress levels because we lose sight of the goal: having fun while we get to where we're going, what we're working towards :)<br />Hope your not posting new deadlines will help, and your friend was right: have fun, honey!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3412682543148147625.post-50971088606506780442011-03-18T19:50:12.517-05:002011-03-18T19:50:12.517-05:00Great advice. I quoted you (using a "Crazy R...Great advice. I quoted you (using a "Crazy Rita"-ism) on my blog.Tammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02141883867104777688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3412682543148147625.post-67008153079932254332011-03-18T16:24:29.687-05:002011-03-18T16:24:29.687-05:00I find that self-imposed can work both ways: they ...I find that self-imposed can work both ways: they either motivate or drive me insane. Just do what feels right for you every time you sit down to write and the words will come. I promise!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00823616282284779390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3412682543148147625.post-76625395217872875842011-03-18T14:01:01.238-05:002011-03-18T14:01:01.238-05:00I think the problem comes from the word "dead...I think the problem comes from the word "deadline." Like if we don't get our work done, we'll die. No wonder you're stressed!<br /><br />So I think we need a new word here. Something like..."Suggested point at which I'd like to finish project" or "Spawiltfp" for short.<br /><br />Yes, spawiltfp is MUCH less intimidating! :-)Cathy C. Hallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16491874468936336577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3412682543148147625.post-6678838636473051652011-03-18T09:52:23.412-05:002011-03-18T09:52:23.412-05:00Becky, I'm glad you've decided to relax an...Becky, I'm glad you've decided to relax and enjoy. I think your friend's advice is wise.<br /><br />I will take that advice too. However, I must mingle it with some balance, perhaps not a deadline, but I must find a way of self-discipline that gets me to the blank page. Procrastination seems to rule my world and I have to find a way to go beyond it.Myrna R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15088915165678737118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3412682543148147625.post-55367164990844309032011-03-17T16:32:31.585-05:002011-03-17T16:32:31.585-05:00If your book comes out this summer, or this fall.....If your book comes out this summer, or this fall...or in the middle of the Christmas season...What is the difference?<br /><br />Have fun. Make it good. Have fun while you're making it good.Sioux Roslawskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17924021828536277618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3412682543148147625.post-17569029616654031642011-03-17T15:40:20.607-05:002011-03-17T15:40:20.607-05:00If I didn't set strict deadlines for myself, I...If I didn't set strict deadlines for myself, I'd never get anything done at all. I live at the beach, which is always beckoning. So I have to invent a slave-driver boss self to keep my "whatever, dude" self in check.Anne R. Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02420000168356370825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3412682543148147625.post-50548020021632004662011-03-17T14:26:18.328-05:002011-03-17T14:26:18.328-05:00I love the quote you shared about winding up the c...I love the quote you shared about winding up the clock again! I think you are exactly right about the deadlines. I hope you can get back to just enjoying the writing process. <br /><br />I wanted to let you know too that I passed a Bloggy award on to you today. Thanks for being an inspiration to me! <br /><br />http://julieflanders.blogspot.com/2011/03/bloggy-time.htmlJulie Flandershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05003737491313673214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3412682543148147625.post-68084938249300137832011-03-17T14:10:32.050-05:002011-03-17T14:10:32.050-05:00Becky that's funny that you said a non writer ...Becky that's funny that you said a non writer friend said you should just enjoy yourself. I was fretting about my own (self-imposed) deadline or something about writing when my husband said, "You need to just write for the joy of writing and forget about all that other stuff." Makes sense and I'm trying hard to relax about it all, but you know how we writers are...Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05296300032567383021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3412682543148147625.post-76439856052455594922011-03-17T13:46:35.581-05:002011-03-17T13:46:35.581-05:00I use self imposed deadlines too. On one hand they...I use self imposed deadlines too. On one hand they are great, on the other hand, a big source of stress. When I find the perfect balance I will let you know. In the meantime if you find it first, will you let me know? :)<br />Blessings,<br />KarenKaren Langehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18177923284595298347noreply@blogger.com