Thursday, August 12, 2010

** This 'n That on a Thursday Night **

A little of this and a little of that.

Don't forget to comment or ask Margaret a question on today's earlier blog post. They can be left until midnight tomorrow night. (Friday, August 13th) One person will win a PDF copy of Margaret's book, by random drawing. From the portion of the book that I've read so far, it's definitely a page turner. If you don't win the free copy, let's help Margaret as much as possible by either passing the word around and/or buying the book! Thanks to all participating, and hopefully y'all will support me when my book comes out!

When I wrote about my dad yesterday on his birthday, I felt a little guilty that I hadn't written much about my mom on her birthday which was just last week. Unfortunately, it was the same day as another scary day concerning Scott's health, and also my frustrating ranting about AOL and my e-mail problems. Sorry, Mom! I'll post more about her this weekend.

I want to apologize for not getting around to all the blogs I usually read and comment on. I don't know where the time goes, but somehow I'm losing it! more ways than one! Please know I try and I certainly do not forget about any of you. You're all always in my thoughts.

While driving to my see my chiropractor today.....yes, my back is a lot better, but not totally 100% yet....I happened to hear the end of a radio interview on NPR with legendary long-distance swimmer Diana Nyad. The host was taking phone calls and somewhere in the conversation, Diana talked about the word "Commitment"....about how important it is in life to actually "commit" to something significant, whether it's swimming a long distance, finishing the task of writing a book (yeah, she had just spoken to a woman in her 50's and I missed that part!), or being the kind of parent that is devoted to raising their children. I had one of those light-bulb moments. While I drove, I grabbed my ever present pen and notepad and scribbled the word Commitment. At the stop light, I added: A commitment to my writing -- to finishing my book. It's not as if I haven't been committed to completing my book, but hearing those words from someone else, and in the way Diana said was magical. I can't express how wonderful I feel and how much I've written this evening.

One of my favorite musicals, Fiddler on the Roof, has one of my favorite songs, Tradition. I am now singing it, replacing Tradtion with Commitment!!

"The big secret in life is that there is no big secret. Whatever your goal, you can get there if you're willing to work. " -- Oprah Winfrey

Blog Interview With Author Margaret Norton

Hello Everyone! Today, I'm having a blog interview with writer, Margaret Norton, about her memoir, When Ties Break (A Memoir about How to Thrive After Loss), which also includes a Give-Away!

1. What made you want to write this memoir?

Initially I did not plan to write a book. I started journaling in 2005 at the suggestion of my counselor as a way to deal with grief I was experiencing from eight deaths the previous year. I shared this with a few people and their reaction was "that's good, you should write a book." I was working away from home and living in a hotel at the time with lots of free time on weekends. Not really knowing where all this would take me I started turning my journal into my life story.

2. How difficult was it to recall and reveal some of the tragic things that happened to you?

It was difficult but also healing. I don't think I realized the connection to all the events in my life until I wrote the book and took a good hard look back. It was difficult admitting that I had made mistakes and some of my misfortune was my own fault. I experienced a range of emotions - feeling sorry for myself, angry with myself, beating myself up, etc. It was especially hard when I wrote about my children and having to come face to face with the reality that my decisions had also profoundly shaped their lives.

3. Did you have to get permission from the people in your life who you included in your book?

I struggled with this for a long time and sought the advice of several published authors. Since I was writing my story I did not ask for permission from anyone but I did change everyones name. People that know me will know who I'm talking about. I did this out of consideration to the people in my book. Even though I was writing my story - which often involved them - I was very aware that some of them did not want their story shared with others. By changing the names people that knew them could read the book without knowing who I was talking about. I wasn't trying to get even with anyone and I didn't make anything up. In fact, I left some things out that I felt were just too personal to share with the whole world. It has generated some interesting conversation from my family and friends.

4. What are some of the major themes you explore in When Ties Break?

Divorce, Adultery, Step Parenting, Single Parenting, Death, Grief, Abuse - physical, emotional, financial & sibling, financial loss, loss of faith in God and family estrangement.

5. How long did it take you to write it?

I wrote the book in six months but then spent one year revising and editing it.

6. What are some of the struggles you've had to overcome in your life that led you to write this memoir?

The struggles that I've overcome are the major themes listed in question #4. Those were all big, major events but I think the real struggle for so many years was to find, understand and like myself. I was insecure as a child, married young to an abusive partner and suffered terribly from low self esteem. As my self confidence increased and I learned how to set boundaries and take care of myself the struggles changed. In some ways they became easier. When I was younger I took everything personal - it was all my fault because I was a terrible person. Now that I'm older my perspective is totally different.

Tuesday, August 3rd was the official release date of Margaret's book. It is available from Amazon, major book stores, from her publisher or autographed copies directly from Margaret.

Attached is the link to Tate Publishing which will take you directly to Margaret's book.

This is a very exciting time in her life, which I can totally relate to!

A little more information about Margaret.  When she lived in this area she was a member of Saturday Writers, which is a marvelous writers' group, and not only because I'm also a member! Now that she lives in North Carolina, she has joined several groups:

Writers' Group of the Triad, Editorial Freelancers Assoc, NC Writers' Network, Southern Independent Booksellers Alliance and Story Circle Network.

Margaret states: "Being a new writer I'm eager to meet as many people in this field as I can and soak up some of their knowledge."

Below are numerous ways to contact Margaret.
Margaret Norton
Personal Life Coach, Writer, Speaker
314 956-2588
To schedule your FREE Consultation
call 314 956-2588 or email me at

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** Okay, here's the part about the "give-away".  Everyone who leaves a comment or question for Margaret, will be placed in a random drawing to receive a PDF file of this book! I started reading it right after I downloaded it, and I can assure you it is a great read! I couldn't wait to read more of it. I've also been told that PDF files of books can be read in some e-readers such as Kindles. Who knew?? Not me!

** Let's do the time for comments and/or questions from Thursday, August 12th at 12:01 am, CDT, until Saturday, August 14th at 12:01 am, CDT.  I'll do the random drawing and announce the winner sometime during the day on Saturday.

I'm very excited for Margaret and I've never even met her! Margo Dill asked if I would like to do a blog interview for her and I agreed. I'm so glad I did, because just from e-mailing back and forth with Margaret (after we got the e-mail goblins to go away!) we've learned that we have quite a bit in common!

Don't be shy! Please leave some comments and/or questions for Margaret!

"Life gives us many chances to start over again, like a cat with nine lives." -- Margaret Norton